But today, is self confidence/ esteem!
Self confidence isn't something that is born or learnt. Self esteem can have positive and negative effects on a person. Some people may have very low self esteem where as another person may have a very high self esteem / confidence. It all depends on the person. Nothing is to say that it is bad to have good self esteem. If you are one of those people, THAT IS AWESOME, because a lot of people struggle with the thought of liking themselves.
Being happy with yourself is one step closer to being able to reach your full potential.
Many teenagers and young children hate the way they look, some as young as 8, they shouldn't be concerned with the way they look! It is the media today that constructs and persuades the audience to believe that vanity is the key way to go about life. There are models, who are photoshopped, role models that are airbrushed to make their skin look flawless, male models promoting protein shakes for 14/15 year old boys that don't need to consume them, promoting excessive exercise use, and the list can go on.
For the girls and boys that have self doubt, for those who think they are a failure, I got news for you. You are most defiantly more important than what the next person says or the number on the scales. People might bring you down, people are nasty. The entire human race is cruel in the fact that we pick out every single flaw in ones body, that might even be your own! You are your harshest critic, and only you can change the way you view yourself.
So, I have a challenge. Every day, you should stand in front of your mirror in your bedroom, bathroom, wherever and you can't focus on the bad, only the good. Repeat, I am worth it, because you are. Every single person you walk by in the streets or in the store has a purpose. Some people may never know until they are 80, they would reflect and think I knew there was a reason why I did that.
There is a time in ones life that they don't see the point. They can't see the light in the darkest places. It can be hard to remove yourself from that negative thinking. But surrounding yourself with happy things, things that make you happy, not your mum/dad or your teachers at school. Being happy with yourself and your happiness should always come first. If you don't like something, change it for the better.
There are always going to be hard times and times that you just want to give up, but remember, no matter how hard it gets there is always an ending. You needed to experience the dark to realise the light has always been inside of you, because if you are stuck in a tunnel and you walk, you are bound to find the end. The darkness doesn't last forever.
You can achieve anything that is possible. You can fly to every single country if you wanted, you can buy a mansion in Beverly Hills if you wanted. Nothing can stop you from achieving your dreams, only you. You are your biggest motivator, but also your biggest obstacle.
The only way you are ever going to move past that one hurdle that you are approaching is by jumping.
Taking risks is scary, hands down without a doubt. If there was a scared train, get me on it. But there is always good in taking risks, good and calculated ones though. As it turns out, it is essential and crucial to our development as individuals to take risks.
Finding the triggers of low self-esteem can be difficult. We personalise negative events by inferring a negative meaning about ourselves. So turning your "inner critic" into an "inner coach" is crucial in developing better self esteem, this can all be developed in the way you talk, the way you walk, the way you sit. If you practise these habits you are more inclined to believe them because they are positive.
Make sure you recognise your achievements. Looking back you reflect on all the challenging hardships you've had, and all those experiences have shaped who you are today. The brain learns from repetition, so constantly practicing positive thinking will train your brain to look at the things they once thought to be negative, in a better light.
I hope this blog was not only insightful but helpful to some. People have to realise that the only one stopping you, is you. Coming to terms with who you are and who you are becoming can be scary, but it is the good for you, because you can look back and reflect on the difficult times you have had and realise you were strong enough to get past them. If you have done this recently, I AM PROUD!
Remember making someone else happy starts with making yourself happy, because you can't fully commit to helping someone unless you are at peace with yourself and there is not a raging war going on inside your head.
A little positivity is all you need.
Maybe sometimes you have to stop waiting for someone to come along and fix what’s wrong. Maybe you have to stop feeling sorry for yourself and realize that no one else has the right answer. Maybe sometimes you have to be your own hero. — Unknown
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S x
